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Life Updates: Moved to Abuja & How to Bounce Back

May 4, 2017
millennium park Abuja

These past few months have been quite the roller coaster ride and much has happened to make me rethink my goals and future plans. Those who follow me on the gram will notice that it was over a month before I posted again.

I recently found out I wasn’t awarded a scholarship that I was really banking on and the initial news really stung. I’m still figuring out what my plans will be from here but I’ve since realized (after a nice chat with my awesome mom), that it’s not the end of the world. I just need to dust myself off and keep trying. I’m still piecing together the lessons from this experience and I’ll use it to make me stronger. It’s also a chance for me to re-evaluate my goals and ensure they are what I truly want, and if so, it means I should stop at nothing to achieve them. That’s why my driving quote a few weeks back was: “when one door closes, look for a window.”

When one door closes, look for a window.

Another thing that happened that I wasn’t expecting was landing in Abuja for my NYSC year. Those of you who read about why I chose to do NYSC will think “I thought you wanted Abuja?” I thought so too, but when it came time to fill out the relocation form, my heart was calling for Lagos. So I wrote Lagos. But somehow, I still ended up in Abuja. It’s like they say: “You have your plans, God has His.”

So here I am now in Abuja, and I’m actually enjoying myself, despite the crippling heat. Abuja is much quieter, much cleaner and much less crowded than Lagos. My kind of city. But the heat…wow! I promised myself I wouldn’t complain though because one of the reasons I chose to come to Nigeria was for the heat. Since I missed a pretty crazy winter in Maryland, I won’t let myself complain about the weather here in Abuja – even if it was 98 degrees Fahrenheit the other day. But now that’s it’s rainy season, the mornings and evenings have been much cooler.

Also, Abuja is beautiful. I know it’s because it’s a planned city and government area, but the flora and fauna of the town is quite nice and they have some gorgeous buildings. Lagos definitely has its charm as well, and I’m actually starting to miss that city. But for now, I’m in Abuja and I’m hoping to make the most of my time here – as soon as I find a place to serve for my service year.

So there we go. A little life update (more to come soon!) and a little reminder to make lemons out of lemonades, dust yourself off after you fall and all the other clichés. But they are clichés because they are true. I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason and that there are simply some things beyond our control. We can’t let them get to us, and we just have to go back to the drawing board and start again. And never be afraid to reach out to those you trust for support. All this is easier said than done, but just keep trying and it gets easier to do each time.

Let me know below if you have any question about my adventures in Abuja/Nigeria and don’t forget to subscribe to the blog so you don’t miss new updates.

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  • Reply Ralph May 4, 2017 at 14:03

    Love the positive attitude. Often my disappointments have turned to positive events. Keep the faith and keep that smile I remember from your Elon days..

    • Reply Omolayo Nkem May 10, 2017 at 14:08

      Thanks so much Ralph! It’s definitely easier to just give up but it doesn’t allow us to achieve the goals in our hearts!! Definitely missing Elon right now!!

  • Reply Chineme May 5, 2017 at 02:57

    First, I LOVE your pictures! Second, I’m so excited for your remaining 9-ish months of service. I can’t wait to read all about it.

    • Reply Omolayo Nkem May 10, 2017 at 14:09

      Lol…I can’t wait to read it either…because that means it will be over. X_x

  • Reply Nana May 12, 2017 at 09:18

    Babe your level of resilience and determination inspires me so much, always. Thank you for sharing this with us 🙂 I’m excited to just see what God has in store for you because I have no doubt that it’ll be a beautiful testimony? Also Abuja looks gorgeous and I can’t wait to visit!

    • Reply Omolayo Nkem July 6, 2017 at 11:18

      Hi Nana,
      Can’t believe I’m just responding to this…also, you’re visiting? What…you better, or I’ll be sad, haha. And thank you!! You’re the sweetest. You inspire me so much too and I just appreciate having you in my life! Til you visit, kisses.

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